Seeing it through Print
News - Final Word
Wednesday, 18 March 2009 08:22
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For the overwhelmed, the blue, the lost, the desperate, the stressed, the displaced, the worried, the confused, the paralysed, the heartbroken, the angry . . . this one is for you.

Are you sitting down? Take a deep breath. Then close your eyes. Feel your legs on the chair, your hands on the arm rests, your feet on the ground. Don’t do anything – just be aware of them. Then open your eyes. What do you see around you?

No, don’t just glance. Really look. “In a way nobody sees a flower really, it is so small, we haven’t the time – and to see takes time, like to have a friend takes time,” said artist Georgia O’Keeffe.

Pablo Picasso said, “If only we could pull out our brain and use only our eyes” then we would be astonished by the world around us.

According to author Lorraine Cohen, awareness is everything. Not just part of it. Not some aspect of it. “Look, therefore, to your awareness, not to your thoughts,” she said. Your thoughts about things can betray you - and often do - because they can be coloured by emotions. Your awareness cannot.” Just observe what is. Only then should you observe what you think about what is. Ask yourself: Why am I thinking that? What would happen if I thought something else?

You choose where you place your attention. You give meaning to each experience based on your viewpoint. Regardless of what is happening in your world, you always have the power to choose how you see things. So, tell me how you see control.

If you feel that you cannot deal with the day, the decision, the deadline, the demands, the disorder, the doubts, the divorce, the disease . . . if you feel that you cannot deal with these unless you keep everything under control, then I have news for you. You cannot control things outside of yourself. The only control you have is over your own attitude.

This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t take responsibility for anything in life. It just means that you should know beforehand that you cannot control the outcome and that you shouldn’t drive yourself nuts trying to do so. First sit back and look, observe, see what is.

Then you’ll notice how often you fall into the pattern of making agreements with conditions in the world. Many of us haven’t felt the worldwide economic recession in our own pockets, but we blame any sudden mishap on it, focus our fears on it; we’ve become weary, afraid to take risks; we curb our dreams. Wait a minute. Look at what we’re doing. We’re agreeing to the conditions of what others say is going on. You don’t have to. You can shift your attitude to one that is more aligned with the way you see things.

But, like Georgia O’Keeffe said, to see takes time. And when you take the time to try to see who you are, you will notice that you are not the circumstances around you. You are not your money. You are not your job. You are not your relationships. You are not your past. You are not even your body. You are that which is left when you’re stripped of all of these.

It is only when you are willing to see through your own eyes that your next step becomes visible. Then you’ll notice that it is always the one that is right in front of you. All you have to do is put one foot forward and on the ground.

I know; there comes a time when you cannot see in front of you. Patrick Overton said: “When we come to the edge of all the light we have and must step into the darkness of the unknown, we must believe one of two things. Either we will find something firm to stand on or we will be taught to fly.”

You’ll believe it when you see it? No, it works the other way around. You have to believe it before you can see it.