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Sunday, 22 July 2012 07:01
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“Trying to ignore something you don't want to see or know is true about yourself . . . is like trying to hide a Tasmanian devil under your bedcovers: you only sleep as well as you can keep it fed and still, which means all your time is spent attending to its comfort.”

So says Guy Finley, author of ‘Who put that stone in my shoe?’. He writes that you have to meet each moment of life with a wish to understand your inner condition instead of looking for ways to justify it. You must try to see the truth about your daily experiences, instead of trying to explain them away in an effort to protect what you hope is true.

It is only when you acknowledge that something is not working for you any longer, that you can start the process of change. Confusion and disorientation are often the messengers that tell us a shift is taking place within us, writes Madisyn Taylor. These shifts happen throughout our lives. We change identities as we move from infancy to childhood to adolescence and beyond.

“Sometimes we form these identities in relationships or jobs, and when we shift, those areas of our life become unsettled. Usually, if we take the time to look into the changing surface of things, we will find that a shift is taking place within us.”

It might not be easy to acknowledge this shift. For some of us, it means coming up against something we can’t deny, ignore or escape any longer. Madisyn writes that most of us have a habit of going through our days saying no to the things we don’t like and yes to the things we do and yet, everything we encounter is our life.

Acknowledging things that don’t work for us doesn’t mean indiscriminately endorsing them. Neither does it mean that we’ll be stuck with them forever. It only means that we trust that we can deal with them, instead of playing blind when we don’t like what we see.

I’m sure you know the feeling of ignoring a niggling irritation when performing certain tasks. Instead of asking yourself why you’re so frustrated, you get lost in some kind of inner fog and grudgingly stampede ahead in any case with your mind elsewhere.

Anything we do begrudgingly limits the flow of our energy and closes us off from the good that is available to us in every situation, says Madisyn. On the other hand, if we can be fully present in every job we do and give our talents and abilities willingly, they attract the right people and circumstances into our experience.

“The world is hungry for your realness and authenticity, not your super-slick invulnerable professionalism. You can show up in your messy glory – with your gifts and your unique humanness,” says Nick Williams, author of ‘The work we were born to do’.

So, how do you find your authentic self again when a shift is taking place inside you? Madisyn says that we may go through a huge part of our lives creating a protective shell around ourselves because we need it to heal. And then you suddenly wake up one day, feeling restless and confined, as if staying put equals submitting to a lifetime of drudgery. It is because the new part of yourself cannot be born within the confines of the shell your old self needed to survive.  

Whenever you are feeling run down, chances are you’ll find yourself in circumstances – a job, home or relationship – that is out of alignment with who you’ve become. The reasons you feel run down probably have less to do with how much you are doing and more with the fact that you’d rather be doing something else, somewhere else and maybe even with someone else.

Things change. Shells crack. Just surrender to this process. If you can let go of your past self with gratitude, chances are you’d be better equipped to welcome the new phase of your life with an open heart.

So, stop feeding the Tasmanian devil under your bedcovers and take an honest look at yourself. Then admit it: Shift happens, girlfriend.