Are you open to the likelihood that ideas want to exist and are looking for willing human co-workers to give them shape and make them exist in this world?

Nick Williams says he likes the idea that the means of mediation between us and the realm where these ideas exist is The Muse. She is relentlessly trying to get our attention for new and thrilling endeavours to work together on.

It is often difficult to hear The Muse’s invitation. Nick says that the more important a project is to your growth and success, the more resistance you may experience around it. So, strange as it may sound, resistance can actually be a pointer.

He explains that the most common form of resistance is simply to dismiss the ideas that The Muse brings us. Eventually The Muse moves on and finds someone open to the quest and then we get outraged when someone else brings ‘our’ idea into existence.

“By dismissing the idea, we stay safe, we don’t have to face our fears, risk failing or looking stupid. But we also stay small and unfulfilled. We rob ourselves of the adventure . . . And then we all lose,” Nick says. You don’t experience the growth of bringing your creations into existence and the world misses out on what you have to contribute.

Doing what truly matters to you is more important than you might think. A palliative care worker once told Tara Brach that the number one regret people had at the end of life is that they didn’t live true to themselves.

I guess you can say that they didn’t heed the call of The Muse. Why not? Tara says that when you’re caught up in self-judgement, you’re cut off from fullness and creativity. You react from a small, contractive space in ways that take you further away from who you want to be and deepen your feelings of unworthiness.

When your sense of identity becomes focused on feelings of deep deficiency, you are unable to live true to yourself. You find your way home again if you can directly be in touch with your suffering instead of dodging your sense of not being good enough.

And this, Tara says, you do in two steps. The first one is mindfulness – recognizing what’s happening in the present moment and not adding judgement. The second step is compassion – regarding whatever is happening with kindness.

Ask yourself two questions: What’s happening inside me? Can I be with this with kindness? Feeling your fears and insecurities and being in your wounded places are the keys to waking up out of the trance of unworthiness, Tara says.

Worthiness or unworthiness is something that is pronounced upon you by you, says Esther Hicks. “You are the only one that can deem yourself worthy or unworthy. You are the only one who can love yourself into a state of allowing, or hate yourself in a state of disallowing.”

You cannot borrow worthiness from any external factors or situations, says Christy Whitman. The more you look for others to validate your worthiness, the less worthy you feel. She says that the biggest delusion about feeling worthy is that it’s something you have to earn or achieve. 

You cannot build feelings of worthiness by trying to conquer all the ways in which you are not worthy, says Christy. Worthiness is sourced from within, and you access it by virtue of how and where you direct your attention. You’re either looking for evidence of your worthiness, or you’re arguing for your worthlessness. 

When you spend a lifetime trying to distance yourself from the parts of your life that don’t fit with who you think you’re supposed to be, you stand outside of your story and try to earn your worthiness by constantly performing, perfecting, pleasing, and proving, says Brené Brown.

Your sense of worthiness lives inside of your story, she says. Believing you’re enough is what gives you the guts to be real, vulnerable and imperfect. Not believing it, you shape-shift and turn into a chameleon. So, you either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for a worthiness you already possess.

Ask The Muse, girlfriend. She’ll tell you that you are exactly the right person and, at this very instant, you’re precisely where you’re meant to be. This is the perfect time to own your story.