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Tuesday, 20 November 2018 16:50
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What are you pretending not to know?

The question is not “What don’t you know?” It has to do with what you’re turning away from; what you’re covering up without even being aware that you’re avoiding some truths about your life.

In his book, ‘You. Are. The. One.’, Kute Blackson writes that deep down there is a part of you that knows everything. Yet you tend to lose touch with that part of you as you mature. As a child you started learning to protect yourself from feeling hurt and pain, but in doing so you disconnect from your intuitive wisdom and start living in a world of rationality.

In this rational world we bombard ourselves with doubt about our gut feelings. What if I am wrong? What should I do? What if it’s not so? Can I be sure?

Kute says that one of the sneaky strategies he has seen people play with themselves is this game of “I don’t know”. We convince ourselves that we’re confused and don’t know what to do, but the truth is that we sometimes use “I don’t know” as an excuse.

“If you were to truly admit your deepest truth then you would no longer have any excuses to not move forward or take action. Instead we hide in the convenient cloud of ‘I don’t know’.”

What don’t you want to acknowledge? What are you persuading yourself that you’re baffled about? Is it about not knowing what your life purpose is? Because if you actually got clear, it might mean taking action.

Is it about your unfulfilling relationship? The one you’re telling yourself you don’t know what to do about? Would getting clear mean that you’d finally have to leave? Or is it about anger you don’t allow yourself to feel because it might lead to conflict?

As ‘Spiritual Bypassing’ author Robert Augustus Masters says: Skipping past your anger by using the tools of premature compassion or forgiveness is not a true healing journey, but mere “conflict avoidance in holy drag”.

Kute says that your happiness is in direct proportion to the degree you listen to your intuition and follow it. To the degree you suppress your intuition and live a lie, is the degree to which you’ll suffer. You choose.

But, what exactly is intuition? Or is that too rational a question? Lissa Rankin calls it your ‘Inner Pilot Light’ and Martha Beck calls it your ‘North Star’. “Explorers depend on the North Star when there are no other landmarks in sight. The same relationship exists between you and your right life,” Martha says.

Eva Gregory calls it ‘Inner Guidance’ and she says the best way to get in touch with it is to set aside a regular time for self-reflection. If all you do is to stare out the window, then that is a good enough start.

According to Eva the trick is not only to be honest and open with yourself, but also to ignore the critical voices from the past and to avoid letting society tell you how to live your life. You learn how to hear your ‘Inner Guidance’ if you make time to do something that you truly enjoy each day and try to reduce those habits that bring you down. As time passes you may find that you need to abandon things and people that drain your energy.

The thing is, only when you acknowledge what is happening to you can you truly benefit from life’s teachings. So, listen to your soul, says Kute. You might not clearly be able to see where you are going in life, but you can trust your inner GPS to guide you home. You’ll find that you will be the right person, at the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing rightly.

“Simply put one step in front of the next. And each step will reveal to you what will be next. You don’t need to know the path for your entire journey. Simply feel what is most true now and have the courage to live that boldly.”

What are you waiting for? For someone to save you? It’s not going to happen, girlfriend. Kute says it’s time to stop thinking that your friends will carry you or that your parents will rescue you. Nobody’s coming. Know why? Everything you’d been seeking has always already been within you.

You. Are. The. One. Of course you know what to do.

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