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Thursday, 22 July 2010 11:13
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I bet you’ve been told that you have a special role to play in the world. That you’re ‘unique’. That by being you, you’re supposed to make a difference. So, how’s that working out for you?

That bad? I see. Then this will make you feel better. Richard Bach writes that when we put up with any situation that we don’t have to put up with, it’s not because we’re dumb. “We put up with it because we want the lesson that only that situation can teach, and we want it more than freedom itself.”

Okay, now that we’ve got this straight, we can, without fear of contradiction, say that none of us is really stuck. We might be on pause while we’re trying to learn something, but we can hit ‘play’ again any time we choose.

But, somehow, a surprising number of us go through life staying on pause long after lessons have been learned and wistfully talk about the day we’ll finally get to do what we really want to.

Okay, so here’s the thing: The first step towards getting what you want is knowing what you want. You see, the things you love and care about are the clues to the way in which you can play your role in the world. And, the more connected you are to those things, the more joy you will experience.

If you still have no clue as to what it is you really want in life, author Madisyn Taylor says that you should try the following exercise. Set your timer for 15 minutes and write without stopping, starting every sentence with “I want”.

Writing without stopping for a set period of time will allow you to override your inner censor. Alternatively, speak your “I wants” out loud to a friend. It’ll have to be a really good friend, because you might come up with some pretty surprising wants.

Another popular way of unearthing your inner wants is to create a vision board. Actually this is just fancy terminology for snipping pictures out of magazines and sticking them up on a piece of cardboard.

Yes, I know. This sounds too basic to be of any real help. But just try doing this every day for a week and then look back to see what has surfaced. You might be surprised what could happen when you start paying attention to what you want.

“Like attracts like,” says Richard Bach. “It’ll surprise you as long as you live. Choose a love and work to make it true, and somehow something will happen, something you couldn’t plan, will come along to move like to like, to set you loose, to set you on the way to your next brick wall.”

For of course you’ll keep coming up against brick walls and of course you’ll lose your enthusiasm every now and then. But it’s like Zig Ziglar says: “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing. That’s why we recommend it daily.”

Still, what would the purpose of motivation be if you’ve unearthed a desire that seems to be beyond your grasp? Say you’re 70 years old and you suddenly realise that you always wanted to be a ballerina. Okay, the whole pink tutu thing on stage . . . not a pretty sight right now, but why not take a ballet class or two? Madisyn says that time spent doing what you want is never wasted. It generates energy that can fuel the rest of your life. Who says that you have to do something perfectly to do it at all?

I really doubt that we’re here to graduate into realms of perfection. Maybe it’s like Mike Dooley says; that we’re here because long, long ago, we already did. Could it be that back then we didn’t think of roles, but just about the chance to face great challenges, explore, share experiences with those we care for, and learn how to love and love again?

 

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