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Wednesday, 18 November 2009 08:40
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Say your life was a movie. You’d be the leading character, right? Then why is it that so many of us end up playing the supporting part?

How often do you catch yourself acting the lesser role to such an extent that you barely even feature in your own movie? Stick to the plot, girlfriend. You’re meant to be the heroine, not the sister, mother, wife or secretary.

Let me tell you a secret; the best way to remember the plot is to see your life as a feature film, as an epic tale where the star might get stuck in traffic, but the audience knows that this is not what the movie is about. Something life-changing is about to happen at any moment. Can’t you just hear the background music?

“Any attempt to measure one’s progress in life with an assessment of one’s present physical surroundings, or even a panoramic glance at one’s life and times to date, is just plain whacked,” says de-whacker Mike Dooley.

“The reason being is that each journey, kind of like a haircut, should never be fully appraised until it’s complete. Otherwise, one might mistake a miracle-in-the-making for a setback, loss, or the wet-look,” he said.

Author Lorraine Cohen says that to assume that something is wrong or that you have screwed up when life takes an unexpected turn, will only block you from seeing and receiving the gifts and blessings of any experience, desired or undesired.

Yes, I know how hard it could be to see a setback or loss in a positive way. It’s because you’ve forgotten to see it on the silver screen. Take Sasha Xarrian’s life for example. She’s the author of the ‘Outrageous Mastery’ trilogy, the true story of a woman who lost everything; her extended Mormon family, husband, home, money, friends and the set of beliefs she had followed since birth.

Do you think it felt like a movie at the time? Sasha had to figure out how to get a home for her children and herself. The house was a wreck and it made her angry, but once she and her children accepted it as a challenge, they rose to the occasion. “The pride that we all felt a year later went soul-deep. A neighbour just shook her head and said, ‘You are superwoman!’ And I felt like superwoman,” Sasha said.

Now this is a Hollywood ending, don’t you agree? Still, at the time Sasha was losing everything in her life, it didn’t feel as if she was a glamorous leading lady. But she says that in time you may look back on a bad experience and call it the best thing that could have happened to you.

“Know that it is not ‘bad’ and neither are you. Know that, on some level, you may even have created this event for your own growth or wake-up call.”

Many of us can only understand this if we see it on the silver screen and not when we’re lost ourselves.

Author Scott Blum writes that when we are lost, we typically look at a map to figure out where we are and how to get to our chosen destination. “This works well, assuming that there is a map of the territory in which we find ourselves, and assuming that we know our destination. However, this is not always the case.”

According to Scott the beauty of being lost is the same thing that makes it scary - it asks us to look within ourselves to find the way. This can be scary because so much seems to be riding on it. “We fear we might go too far in the wrong direction, or become paralysed and make no progress at all. And yet, this is the very challenge we need to develop our ability to trust ourselves.”

And this you can only do if you stop acting small. Come on, it’s time to be the leading character in your own movie. Positions, everybody. Okay, now flick back your hair, lift your chin and repeat after me: “I’m ready for my close-up now, mr DeMille.”

 

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