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Friday, 16 October 2009 00:14
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You know that your dreams aren’t yours by accident, don’t you? You have them for a reason. You’re meant to make them come true. Now why does that seem such a tall order?

I suppose we get really stressed out by this dreaming business because we feel like failures if we’re not living the life of our dreams. Some of us get so scared of failing that we hardly dare articulate what it is that we want.

Now let me put it to you in a way that will take a bit of the stress edge off. Brace yourself and answer honestly: Have you fulfilled all your dreams? Well, sorry to say doll, but if the answer is yes you are probably dead. See, right now you might be living yesterday’s dream, but you will keep reaching beyond what you’ve already dreamt up.

Naturally you’ll kick the bucket with a dream outstanding and that’s a good thing because it means you never stopped dreaming. So, relax about it already, won’t you. We’re meant to have fun with this.

The point is never to stop thinking up new things to be excited about, for then you might as well die, which is what many of us have done, although we keep dragging our bodies back and forth to the office each day.

Unfortunately, most of us get stuck in a rut. Life coach Dina Cramer says we work hard because we feel we have to if we want to support our family or afford everything we want.

The irony is that we never really get quality time to spend with this family we are working so hard to support and the thing about accumulating material things is that objects don’t make us feel better for long.

The solution is to get a very clear picture of what living your best life would look like. Now ask yourself: Who do I need to be in order to live this life? Ah, bet you thought I was going to ask what you need to do.

Nope, not initially. Don’t worry about the cursed how’s, as author Mike Dooley would say. That’s the whole point of dreaming, isn’t it? To imagine what you want without knowing how you’re going to get it. Don’t believe me? Then listen to Sean Stephenson, a man who has broken every stereotype out there. Born with a disorder that would leave him three feet tall and so brittle that coughing could fracture a rib, Sean was constantly racked with pain. After breaking his leg the umpteenth time, his mother asked him the following question: Is this going to be a gift or a burden?

Decades later, Sean is still doing his best to convert what would seem to be an insurmountable challenge into a gift - to himself and others. And he does this by dreaming.

It started when Sean was raced to hospital at 3 am in excruciating pain. While waiting for the doctor, he decided to do something that drastically altered the course of his life. He wrote down a list of his dreams. Now, I should mention that these dreams weren’t small by any means. They were massive. Things he was not even sure he could ever do. Today Sean has ticked off many of the things on that list. He’s a motivational speaker, has published a book, ‘Get off your but’, went scuba-diving, went back-packing through Egypt and spoke at an event with the Dalai Lama.

If Sean can do this against all odds, isn’t it time you grab a piece of paper and write down your dreams? Create your own bucket list of all the things you want to experience or have in your life.

Don’t wait until you’re in hospital at 3 am to do this. Don’t worry about the hows’s and never believe the naysayers. They’ll only tell you that blood, sweat and tears are what it takes to make your dreams come true.

I hope someone like Sean got to you before they did.

 

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