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Tuesday, 31 January 2017 20:15
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We’re not even a full month into this brand new year and the sparkle is already going a bit stale – sadly spiralling downwards towards same-old-same-old. If you made any New Year’s resolutions, chances are that you’re rapidly becoming disillusioned with the strength of your willpower.

You’re not alone. I am so with you on this one, girlfriend. Okay, so I can spend the rest of the year in the foetal position or I can get a new take on the entire goal-setting procedure. Have you considered that the problem could be inherent in the process?

Life coach Tara Marino says that goals often start with the intention of “What I did not do this past year” or “What I am not good enough at yet”. Starting with this kind of mind-set is what forces millions of people into a goal-setting frenzy on 1 January. It is also what soon causes the bleuuugh-factor to kick in.

The problem is that you’re starting from a place of lack and external expectations that often have nothing to do with your own needs. Tara says that this causes overwhelm and the feeling of failure that can take hold of every part of your life. That is why so many people don’t complete their goals and don’t feel fulfilled by the ones they do reach.

Actually, girlfriend, nothing-but-nothing in life works if you start reaching for a goal from a place of lack and if the goal you’re reaching for is not even yours to begin with. You have to start from a place of abundance and the simplest way to get there is through gratitude.

Gratitude is just a habit, a way of looking at the world with a feeling of appreciation, even if your situation is not to your liking. To make it a habit, you start by writing down things you are grateful for every day. Just that. Try it and you’ll see that it is not happy people who are grateful. It is grateful people who are happy. And healthy.

Nick Ortner from ‘The Tapping Solution’ writes that gratitude increases blood flow and activity in the hypothalamus, the master gland that controls hormones. In this way it raises oxytocin, lowers cortisol and raises two neurotransmitters, dopamine and serotonin, which means that gratitude leads to a decline in stress and depressive symptoms; that it improves sleep and strengthens your immune system.

You see, gratitude is medicine; the kind of mojo you need to fire-up goals that are truly yours. Nick Polizzi, director of ‘The Sacred Science’, calls it kindling. He says that the basic principles of fire craft apply to any big change you want to make in your life.

You can’t simply throw a match on a herculean log and expect it to catch fire. Any boy scout knows that the best way to start a fire is by igniting something that is easy to burn, such as dried leaves.

You lay them across the bottom as your base and then add small dried branches over the top. Once your pile of kindling is burning, you carefully add larger branches and only then the huge logs.

In the same way, says Nick, if you want to accomplish great things in your life, you need to use your inner flame wisely, holding it up to the right things at the right time. Create easy steps for your fire to climb, getting larger and hotter as it goes.

When setting goals for the new year, many of us try to flick a match at a log. And then we hate ourselves if the log doesn’t catch fire. This year, collect your kindling first. What are the first steps you can take to ignite your kindling? Where are the easy wins that will make you revel in the crackle of your flame?

By the way, talking about new years – numerologically speaking, 2017 is a pioneer year. As a one year (2+0+1+7=10=1), it truly is a year where new beginnings happen with greater ease and flow.

Whatever is left of this year is yours. Let gratitude be the kindling to ignite your passions so that you can blaze a new trail to whatever it is you want to bring about. It’s how we’re going to set the world on fire.

Burn, baby, burn!

 

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